How to support students staying behind when others leave

In international schools, turnover is a normal part of life – but that doesn’t make it any easier for the students who stay behind. As classmates and friends move on at the end of the year, those remaining can experience a sense of loss, uncertainty, or even abandonment. While the leavers often receive the bulk of the attention, it’s equally important to support the students who stay. Here’s how to make sure they feel seen, supported, and ready to embrace what’s next.

Acknowledge their experience

The departure of peers can feel like a quiet grief for some students. They might not have the chance to express these feelings openly, especially when the focus is on farewells and celebrations. Create space for open dialogue, and acknowledge that staying behind also involves change and emotion. A simple, “It’s okay to feel sad or left out when others are moving on” can go a long way.

Help them express their feelings

Give students outlets to process what they’re feeling. Activities like journalling, writing letters to friends who are leaving, or group discussions can provide emotional release. You could also create a shared class project (like a memory book or goodbye messages on postcards) that allows everyone to participate, not just those leaving.

Reinforce their place in the school community

When students see friends go, they may question their own role or value in the school. Help rebuild their sense of belonging by involving them in plans for the next school year. Invite them to brainstorm ideas for classroom changes, leadership opportunities, or new student welcoming initiatives. Reframing their situation as one of continuity and leadership can help shift their perspective from “left behind” to “holding the fort.”

Highlight what’s ahead

Looking forward to the next year can be a powerful antidote to sadness. Talk about exciting projects, events, or changes that are coming up. If new students are joining, frame it as an opportunity for connection and mentorship. This future-focused mindset helps students shift from loss to possibility.

Keep the classroom dynamic inclusive

During the final weeks of term, avoid letting the narrative become entirely about the students who are leaving. Balance goodbye rituals with moments that include and celebrate everyone. Use language that acknowledges all students, such as “We’ve all grown so much this year” instead of “We’ll miss you so much.”

Watch for signs of withdrawal

Some students may internalise their emotions, becoming withdrawn or disinterested. Check in with them individually if you notice changes in mood or behaviour. Even a quiet conversation during recess or a note left on their desk can remind them they’re not alone.

Involve families

Let parents of staying students know that the school is aware of the emotional impact of transitions. Share ways they can support their child at home and reassure them that it’s a common experience in international schooling. Providing tips or resources – such as talking prompts or children’s books on change – can help extend support beyond the classroom.

Supporting students who stay behind when others leave is a key part of creating a compassionate and inclusive school culture. With the right strategies, you can help these students navigate the emotional landscape of transition, rebuild their sense of connection, and look forward to what’s coming next. After all, they’re the ones who carry the heart of the school into the new year.